i wonder why ~

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"Most people would rather be certain they're miserable, than risk being happy."

~Robert Anthony

I wonder why people embrace a life of being miserable ~

Instead of risking a life filled with happiness, hope and healing. 
A life filled with love.

Live your life 

I'll say it again

Live *your* life

Forget the past

Move away from remembering old hurts

Cast them off as far as the east is from the west

Move towards new adventures

New experiences

New friends

New loves

Heal your core wounds by embracing healthy thoughts

Healthy habits

Healthy activities

Healthy people

Love yourself enough to choose what's best for you

What's best for your physical and mental health

What's best for your mind

What's best for your soul

What your core knows is right for you

Never put your happiness in the hands of another

You will always be unhappy if you do

Other people can't make you happy

Other people will always fail you

It is the nature of our being human

Our abilities fall short of being able to make another happy

It can't be done

Everyone has to choose for themselves

Know your own truth

What you believe

Not what others tell you to believe 

Not what others say you should believe

Not what others guilt you into believing

Know your own truth by seeking it yourself

Understand your own needs

Look deep into the depths of who you are at your core

Acknowledge and embrace all of *you*

Always know that only *you* can meet your own needs

Only you will be able to make *you* happy

There is no Cinderella 

Or Prince Charming 

Or Mighty Mouse

There is no person that will come to save your day

Or your life

Or your soul

Or your existence

You are it 

If you understand nothing else about your life

Understand that *YOU* are it

It's all on you 

Your happiness

Don't say, "If only he/she would do/be/say...."

No no no

It's not about them when it comes to you

And it's not about you when it comes to them

Understand that one concept and you will free yourself

Free yourself to a world of possibilities

To make your life what you want it to be

To make yourself happy

Listen up

Everyone in your life is simply a bonus

A gift

A wonderful present

The cherry on top of an already wonderfully delicious hot fudge sunday

If you don't get the cherry right away don't worry

Sometimes, to appreciate what we don't have we have to go without

For a day or a season 

For awhile

It will come to you when you are ready for it

Out of nowhere almost

When you are finally in that place where you can say,

"I am truly happy as I am"

"With what I have"

"With my life as it is"

Not that looking forward to anything is bad

But understand that you must stand in the present and accept it

Embrace it

Love it

Not necessarily your situation

But the most important thing inside of you

You must love the moment in time that you are given to breathe

Each breath is a gift we can never get back

Love that moment and you will find your happiness

You will be content

You will be happy

And everything will feel like a bonus to you 

With every breath you take

Every person you meet

Every place you go

Every meeting you have

Everything you do

Every thing

Every wonderful experience you are alive to feel

You will finally understand

They are all life's gifts

For you

Give love 

Simply to love

Don't give out of expectation

Or want

Or desire

Or need for something in return

Give love 

Simply to love

Because 

We are built to love

We are built to give

We are built in our humanness to embrace others

To love others

They will feel

Cherished

Wanted 

Desired

Cared for

And in your giving you will receive the best gift of all

Your own needs will be fulfilled

Your own wants will be met

Your own desires will be realized

By giving of yourself

Know that what you give will come back to you 

Ten fold and more

Always and forever

Until the end of your time

And then it will live on

In the ones *you* loved simply

Simply because 

You loved them

Unconditionally

With an open heart

From the depths of your soul

To the ends of your earth

For the rest of their life

Funny thing happens when you choose to do what's best for you by giving love simply to love ~

You will find the happiness that you think has alluded you...

For the rest of your life.

Trust me.

You will find what you need by giving it to others...

Stop searching.  You're already there.  Simply love.

Love simply.