Decorated the tree last night...
My son asked me when we would be doing it for several days now. I didn't think much of it other than I wondered at his insistence. He hadn't been in the spirit of Christmas decorating for a long time. Years.
His girlfriend came over and, as we were adding the strings to the ornaments I found at the dollar store (thank you to my daughter for that tip on FB!), I mentioned how nice it was that he was so enthusiastic about helping decorate.
A long time ago, in years past in another life, sometimes it was like pulling teeth to get my family into the Christmas spirit and want to decorate. Some years were better than others. I remember those times when I wanted everyone to be up with me, singing "Have a Holly Jolly Christmas This Year!" I always bought those red Santa hats and I'd take videos and still pictures of my family decorating. A fire would be going and the Christmas music on. Oh what great memories those years were! Oh how I miss my pictures and videos lost to Hurricane Ike of what had been wonderful times. It seemed like forever last night... those Christmas' from years past. All that is left from them is inside of our minds.
My son said, "I thought this would be a good Christmas present for you... decorating the tree. And you could take your pictures." He was giving me the gift of making new memories. There are no words to describe how my heart felt at that moment.
It humbles me when I realize that my children understand just exactly what is important in life. When they show me that they "get it" and, on top of comprehending "it", they want to be a part of it. Last night, my son understood what has always made me happy and brought joy into my life. He showed me that he understood what is important. What a tremendous gift I received!
Christmas has not and never will be for me about the monetary things people buy. It's not about gifts or shopping or spending or looking for what others will spend on me or what I can spend on others. It's not about food or baking or doing anything special or out of the ordinary. Even though I do all these things... that is not what Christmas means to me.
Christmas is simply about being with the ones you love and enjoying every minute of it.
Christmas, as is the rest of the year for me, is all about time. Time spent with those most important in my life. It's about being present in the moment with the ones I want to share the rest of my moments, while I can still breathe, live, see.
Christmas is about bringing joy into the lives of those I love and sharing my joy with them. Making them happy always has made me content.
Christmas is simply about being "there" for each other. It's about allowing others to give of themselves to you, for you to receive their gift, and then give back to them what is in your heart.
The circle of love.
Christmas is about the circle of love. Loving others without looking for anything in return. Giving love without expecting anything back. Receiving the love that others want to give to you, in any way they choose to do for you, and letting them know that it is more than enough. They are more than enough. Without stipulations, regulations, or expectations.
Christmas is allowing others to be who they are and loving them with all your heart unconditionally, simply because...
Simply because they are who they are... valuable, irreplaceable, one-of-a-kind... a treasure. A joy immeasurable. A gift for you to unwrap every day and find all things new.
I wish all of you will have the wonder of a Christmas full of love and joy and time spent with those you love! Our Christmas will not be totally complete until after the new year when my daughter comes to visit. Even then, we will be without her fiance', so it will be bittersweet. But we will enjoy what we do have and not fret about the rest.
Christmas is not a single day in the year. It is every day when we can be together as a family. When we are together - it is always Christmas Day.
As long as we're together, every day is always a gift for me.