“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything they have. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God."
~Unknown~

Sunday, August 30, 2009

A time comes in your life when you finally get it . . .


The Awakening

A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere, the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying, or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes, you begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world, there aren't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you and in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are . . . and that's OK. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process; a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety & security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process, a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way you view yourself and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. You begin to sift through all the junk you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh, what you should wear and where you should shop and what you should drive, how and where you should live and what you should do for a living, who you should marry and what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children or what you owe your parents. You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with and in the process, you learn to go with your instincts.

You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive and that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a by gone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don't know everything; it's not your job to save the world and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt, responsibility, and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love, romantic love and familial love, how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.

You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.

You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love; and you learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms, just to make you happy.

You learn that alone does not mean lonely. You look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you "stack up."

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is your right, to want things and to ask for the things that you want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, respect, and you won't settle for less. You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his touch and in the process; you internalize the meaning of self-respect.

And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear. So you take more time to rest. Just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul; so you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that for the most part in life, you get what you believe you deserve and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it's OK to risk asking for help.

You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time; FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear, is to give away the right to live life on your terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions, you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers; it's just life happening.

You learn to deal with evil in its most primal state; the ego. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted; things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart's desire. You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind, and you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

~Author Unknown

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Daily Affirmations:

"I now release my entire past. It is complete and I am free. I now dissolve all negative, limiting beliefs. They have no power over me. I now let go of all accumulated guilt, fear, resentment, disappointment, and grudges. I am free and clear. I now forgive and release everyone in my life. We are all happy and free. All barriers to my full expression and enjoyment of life, are now dissolved."
~Unknown

"I will only speak aloud if my words satisfy the following criteria: (1) Are these words true? (2) Are they necessary? (3) Are they kind?"
~Eknath Easwaran

Saturday, August 29, 2009

love never fails

"You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving."
~Author Unknown


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LOVE ONE ANOTHER
Positive Alternatives

Rather than being annoyed, be amused.
Instead of getting angry, become curious.
In place of envy, feel admiration.
In place of worry, take action.
In place of doubt, have faith.
Negative energy is just positive energy that's flowing in the opposite direction.

There's no need to fight or run away from that negative energy. All you need to do is change its direction. The more negative you are, the more positive you can be. An automobile that can travel 70 miles per hour to the east... can also travel just as fast when going west. But first, someone must turn it around.

When you sense yourself becoming negative, stop and consider what it would mean to apply that negative energy in the opposite direction. Turn your sadness into caring. Transform your complaints into useful suggestions. Change your bitterness into determination. The energy is already there, All you need to do is change its direction.
~Nancie Dittert

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"My command to you is this: love one another as I have loved you."
~John 15:12

"Man's nature is not essentially evil. Brute nature has been know to yield to the influence of love. You must never despair of human nature."
~Mohandas Gandhi

"While God waits for His temple to be built of love, men bring stones."
~Rabindranath Tagore

"You don't have to go looking for love when it's where you come from."
~Werner Erhard

"Love is not consolation. It is light."
~Friedrich Nietzsche

"Loving is never a waste of time."
~Astrid Alauda

"Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence."
~David Byrne

"Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that."
~Michael Leunig

"Love is not singular except in syllable."
~Marvin Taylor

"Only in love are unity and duality not in conflict."
~Rabindranath Tagore

"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love."
~1 John 4:18

"You learn to like someone when you find out what makes them laugh, but you can never truly love someone until you find out what makes them cry."
~Author Unknown

"Love withers under constraints: its very essence is liberty: it is compatible neither with obedience, jealousy, nor fear: it is there most pure, perfect, and unlimited where its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve."
~Percy Bysshe Shelley

"A man is not where he lives, but where he loves."
~Latin Proverb

"Love never reasons but profusely gives; gives, like a thoughtless prodigal, its all, and trembles lest it has done too little."
~Hannah Moore

"Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind."
~William Shakespeare, Mid-Summer Night's Dream, 1595

"Love is the greatest refreshment in life."
~Pablo Picasso

"Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity."
~Henry Van Dyke

"Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end."
~Author Unknown

"Love is a canvas furnished by Nature and embroidered by imagination."
~Voltaire

"At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet."
~Plato

"Nobody has ever measured, even poets, how much a heart can hold."
~Zelda Fitzgerald

"Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction."
~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Wind, Sand and Stars, 1939, translated from French by Lewis Galantière

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”
~Thomas Merton

"Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up."
~1 Corinthians 8:1

"We can do no great things, only small things with great love."
~Mother Teresa

"In real love you want the other person's good. In romantic love you want the other person."
~Margaret Anderson

"For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself."
~Galatians 5:14

"Take away love, and our earth is a tomb."
~Robert Browning

"The only true gift is a portion of yourself."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."
~Robert Heinlein

"Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins."
~Proverbs 10:12

"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection."
~Buddha

"Love has no desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving."
~Kahlil Gibran

"The hardest-learned lesson: that people have only their kind of love to give, not our kind."
~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook, 1960

"If love does not know how to give and take without restrictions, it is not love, but a transaction that never fails to lay stress on a plus and a minus."
~Emma Goldman, The Tragedy of Women's Emancipation

"A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave."
~Mohandas Gandhi

"The art of love... is largely the art of persistence."
~Albert Ellis

"A baby is born with a need to be loved - and never outgrows it."
~Frank A. Clark

"Love does not care to define and is never in a hurry to do so."
~Charles du Bos

"If I love you, what business is it of yours?"
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

"Where love is, there God is also."
~Mohandas Gandhi

"Where there is love there is life."
~Mohandas Gandhi

"Come live in my heart and pay no rent."
~Samuel Lover

"If you judge people, you have no time to love them ♥"
~Mother Teresa

"If I have not love, I am nothing."
~I Corinthians 13:2

"Love is patient, love is kind.

It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perserveres.
Love never fails."
~I Corinthians 13:4-8

Friday, August 28, 2009

I have decided to stick with love


"Love is blind; hate is deaf."

~Author Unknown

"Hate cages all the good things about you."
~Madrianne Arvore

"The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less."
~Eldridge Cleaver, Soul on Ice, 1968

"If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us."
~Herman Hesse

"Hate is the consequence of fear; we fear something before we hate it; a child who fears noises becomes a man who fears noises."
~Cyril Connolly

"He that fears you present will hate you absent."
~Thomas Fuller

"A Rattlesnake, if Cornered will become so angry it will bite itself. That is exactly what the harboring of hate and resentment against others is - a biting of oneself. We think we are harming others in holding these spites and hates, but the deeper harm is to ourselves."
~E. Stanley Jones

"We hate some persons because we do not know them; and will not know them because we hate them."
~Charles Caleb Colton

"In hatred as in love, we grow like the thing we brood upon. What we loathe, we graft into our very soul."
~Mary Renault

"Few people can be happy unless they hate some other person, nation, or creed."
~Bertrand Russell

"One does not hate as long as one has a low esteem of someone, but only when one esteems him as an equal or a superior."
~Friedrich Nietzsche

"I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him."
~Booker T. Washington

"Passionate hatred can give meaning and purpose to an empty life."
Eric Hoffer

"It is to the credit of human nature, that, except where its selfishness is brought into play, it loves more readily than it hates. Hatred, by a gradual and quiet process, will even be transformed to love, unless the change be impeded by a continually new irritation of the original feeling of hostility."
~Nathaniel Hawthorne, The Scarlet Letter

"Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door of resentment and the handcuffs of hate. It is a power that breaks the chains of bitterness and the shackles of selfishness."
~William Arthur Ward

"I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain."
~James Baldwin

"A man who lives, not by what he loves but what he hates, is a sick man."
~Archibald Macleish

"Hatred is the coward's revenge for being intimidated."
~George Bernard Shaw

"We love without reason, and without reason we hate."
~Jean-francois Regnard

“Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”
~Yoda

"While I dance I cannot judge, I cannot hate, I cannot separate myself from life. I can only be joyful and whole. That is why I dance."
Hans Bos

"Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule."
~Buddha

"An eye for an eye leaves everybody blind.”
~Mahatma Ghandi

"If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other."
Mother Teresa

"If anyone says, "I love God," yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen."
~1 John 4:20

"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear."
~Martin Luther King, Jr.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Why all the fear and lies?

Without making this a debate pitting political sides against one another, Rae voiced my own personal concern so very eloquently when she posted the following statement on my FB wall:

"I agree, we shouldn’t have a knee jerk reaction and put in place something that doesn’t work but why all the fear and lies?"

With that thought and ONLY that thought in mind, post your FACTS and let's discuss them without hysteria, fear or name calling. Don't parrot an "us against them" rhetoric but instead share your stats and your opinions in your own words without negativity. All opinions are welcome btw! Nothing better than a good intelligent debate.

Here are a few to get the discussion ball rolling:

Don't Let the Myths About Health Care Reform Scare You.

There are special interest groups trying to block progress on health care reform by using myths and scare tactics. Like the notion that health care reform would ration your care, hurt Medicare or be a government takeover. Actually, these are false statements.

All of the health care reform plans currently being debated in Congress would ensure that you and your doctor are the ones making decisions about your health. The majority of working Americans will continue to receive their health care through their employer. In addition, health care reform will strengthen Medicare by eliminating billions of dollars in waste while lowering prescription drug prices.

The following are some of the most common myths being spread about health care reform and the facts that prove them wrong – click here to watch a video by AARP on the myths and facts of reform.

Myth: Health care reform is socialized medicine.

Fact: Health care reform will preserve the employer-based health care system, meaning an estimated 200 million Americans will continue to get their coverage through their employers.

Fact: For people buying coverage for themselves, there would be a range of private health plans to choose from. Also, the so-called "public plan" option would seek to give American consumers another choice if they can't find affordable, quality coverage in the private insurance market. The goal of the "public plan" is to give consumers the best value for their money and force greater competition among insurance plans for our business.

Fact: Every proposal that Congress is considering would allow people to choose their own doctors and hospitals.

Bottom Line: Health care reform isn't about a government takeover. It's about guaranteeing all Americans a choice of health care plans they can afford.

Myth: Health care reform means rationed care.

Fact: None of the health reform proposals being considered would stand between individuals and their doctors or prevent any American from choosing the best possible care.

Fact: Health care reform will NOT give the government the power to make life or death decisions for anyone regardless of their age. Those decisions will be made by an individual, their doctor and their family.

Fact: Health care reform will help ensure doctors are paid fairly so they will continue to treat Medicare patients.

Bottom Line: Health reform isn't about rationing; it's about giving people the peace of mind of knowing that they will be able to keep their doctors and that they will always have a choice of affordable health plans.

Myth: Health care reform will hurt Medicare.

Fact: None of the health care reform proposals being considered by Congress would cut Medicare benefits or increase your out-of-pocket costs for Medicare services.

Fact: Health care reform will lower prescription drug costs for people in the Medicare Part D coverage gap or "doughnut hole" so they can get better afford the drugs they need.

Fact: Health care reform will protect seniors' access to their doctors and reduce the cost of preventive services so patients stay healthier.

Fact: Health care reform will reduce costly, preventable hospital readmissions, saving patients and Medicare money.

Fact: Rather than weaken Medicare, health care reform will strengthen the financial status of the Medicare program.

Bottom Line: For people in Medicare, health care reform is about lowering prescription drug costs for people in the "doughnut hole", keeping the doctor of your choice, improving the quality of care, and eliminating billions in waste that is causing poor care and medical errors.

Myth: Health care reform is too expensive – we can't afford it.

Fact: The President and Congress have committed to producing legislation that will be paid for so it won't saddle our children and grandchildren with debt.

Fact: If we do nothing to fix health care, families with Medicare or employer-based health coverage will likely see their premiums nearly double again in the next seven years.

Fact: If we do nothing to fix health care, the share of your income spent on health care will nearly double in the next seven years.

Bottom Line: When one in three Americans say someone in their family skipped pills, postponed or cut back on needed medical care due to the cost; when countless bankruptcies are related to medical expenses; when the number of uninsured approaches 50 million; when government spending on health programs rises so rapidly that it jeopardizes other priorities; and when employers struggle to pay for the costs of health care, the fact is, we can't afford not to fix health care.

Myth: Health care reform means the government can make life-and-death decisions for you.

Fact: Health care reform will NOT give the government the power to make life-and-death decisions for anyone regardless of their age. Those decisions will be made by individuals, their doctor and their family.

Fact: No one, including the government or your insurance company, will be given power to make life-and-death decisions for you.

Bottom Line: Health care reform isn't about putting the government in charge of difficult end of life decisions. It's about giving individuals and families the option to talk with their doctors in advance about difficult choices every family faces when loved ones near the end of their lives.


Point out where in the actual document your beliefs and claims are supported.
Let's debate strictly by facts and not conjecture.
READ IT FOR YOURSELF AND MAKE YOUR OWN DECISION:

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1 (ii) by inserting ‘‘and at a time’’ after
2 ‘‘form and manner’’; and
3 (3) in subsection (h)(4)(E), by striking ‘‘lesser’’
4 and inserting ‘‘greater’’.
5 SEC. 1233. ADVANCE CARE PLANNING CONSULTATION.
6 (a) MEDICARE.—
7 (1) IN GENERAL.—Section 1861 of the Social
8 Security Act (42 U.S.C. 1395x) is amended—
9 (A) in subsection (s)(2)—
10 (i) by striking ‘‘and’’ at the end of
11 subparagraph (DD);
12 (ii) by adding ‘‘and’’ at the end of
13 subparagraph (EE); and
14 (iii) by adding at the end the fol
15 lowing new subparagraph:
16 ‘‘(FF) advance care planning consultation (as
17 defined in subsection (hhh)(1));’’; and
18 (B) by adding at the end the following new
19 subsection:
20 ‘‘Advance Care Planning Consultation
21 ‘‘(hhh)(1) Subject to paragraphs (3) and (4), the
22 term ‘advance care planning consultation’ means a con
23 sultation between the individual and a practitioner de
24 scribed in paragraph (2) regarding advance care planning,
25 if, subject to paragraph (3), the individual involved has
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1 not had such a consultation within the last 5 years. Such
2 consultation shall include the following:
3 ‘‘(A) An explanation by the practitioner of ad
4 vance care planning, including key questions and
5 considerations, important steps, and suggested peo
6 ple to talk to.
7 ‘‘(B) An explanation by the practitioner of ad
8 vance directives, including living wills and durable
9 powers of attorney, and their uses.
10 ‘‘(C) An explanation by the practitioner of the
11 role and responsibilities of a health care proxy.
12 ‘‘(D) The provision by the practitioner of a list
13 of national and State-specific resources to assist con
14 sumers and their families with advance care plan
15 ning, including the national toll-free hotline, the ad
16 vance care planning clearinghouses, and State legal
17 service organizations (including those funded
18 through the Older Americans Act of 1965).
19 ‘‘(E) An explanation by the practitioner of the
20 continuum of end-of-life services and supports avail
21 able, including palliative care and hospice, and bene
22 fits for such services and supports that are available
23 under this title.
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1 ‘‘(F)(i) Subject to clause (ii), an explanation of
2 orders regarding life sustaining treatment or similar
3 orders, which shall include—
4 ‘‘(I) the reasons why the development of
5 such an order is beneficial to the individual and
6 the individual’s family and the reasons why
7 such an order should be updated periodically as
8 the health of the individual changes;
9 ‘‘(II) the information needed for an indi
10 vidual or legal surrogate to make informed deci
11 sions regarding the completion of such an
12 order; and
13 ‘‘(III) the identification of resources that
14 an individual may use to determine the require
15 ments of the State in which such individual re
16 sides so that the treatment wishes of that indi
17 vidual will be carried out if the individual is un
18 able to communicate those wishes, including re
19 quirements regarding the designation of a sur
20 rogate decisionmaker (also known as a health
21 care proxy).
22 ‘‘(ii) The Secretary shall limit the requirement
23 for explanations under clause (i) to consultations
24 furnished in a State—
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1 ‘‘(I) in which all legal barriers have been
2 addressed for enabling orders for life sustaining
3 treatment to constitute a set of medical orders
4 respected across all care settings; and
5 ‘‘(II) that has in effect a program for or
6 ders for life sustaining treatment described in
7 clause (iii).
8 ‘‘(iii) A program for orders for life sustaining
9 treatment for a States described in this clause is a
10 program that—
11 ‘‘(I) ensures such orders are standardized
12 and uniquely identifiable throughout the State;
13 ‘‘(II) distributes or makes accessible such
14 orders to physicians and other health profes
15 sionals that (acting within the scope of the pro
16 fessional’s authority under State law) may sign
17 orders for life sustaining treatment;
18 ‘‘(III) provides training for health care
19 professionals across the continuum of care
20 about the goals and use of orders for life sus
21 taining treatment; and
22 ‘‘(IV) is guided by a coalition of stake
23 holders includes representatives from emergency
24 medical services, emergency department physi
25 cians or nurses, state long-term care associa-
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1 tion, state medical association, state surveyors,
2 agency responsible for senior services, state de
3 partment of health, state hospital association,
4 home health association, state bar association,
5 and state hospice association.
6 ‘‘(2) A practitioner described in this paragraph is—
7 ‘‘(A) a physician (as defined in subsection
8 (r)(1)); and
9 ‘‘(B) a nurse practitioner or physician’s assist
10 ant who has the authority under State law to sign
11 orders for life sustaining treatments.
12 ‘‘(3)(A) An initial preventive physical examination
13 under subsection (WW), including any related discussion
14 during such examination, shall not be considered an ad
15 vance care planning consultation for purposes of applying
16 the 5-year limitation under paragraph (1).
17 ‘‘(B) An advance care planning consultation with re
18 spect to an individual may be conducted more frequently
19 than provided under paragraph (1) if there is a significant
20 change in the health condition of the individual, including
21 diagnosis of a chronic, progressive, life-limiting disease, a
22 life-threatening or terminal diagnosis or life-threatening
23 injury, or upon admission to a skilled nursing facility, a
24 long-term care facility (as defined by the Secretary), or
25 a hospice program.
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1 ‘‘(4) A consultation under this subsection may in
2 clude the formulation of an order regarding life sustaining
3 treatment or a similar order.
4 ‘‘(5)(A) For purposes of this section, the term ‘order
5 regarding life sustaining treatment’ means, with respect
6 to an individual, an actionable medical order relating to
7 the treatment of that individual that—
8 ‘‘(i) is signed and dated by a physician (as de
9 fined in subsection (r)(1)) or another health care
10 professional (as specified by the Secretary and who
11 is acting within the scope of the professional’s au
12 thority under State law in signing such an order, in
13 cluding a nurse practitioner or physician assistant)
14 and is in a form that permits it to stay with the in
15 dividual and be followed by health care professionals
16 and providers across the continuum of care;
17 ‘‘(ii) effectively communicates the individual’s
18 preferences regarding life sustaining treatment, in
19 cluding an indication of the treatment and care de
20 sired by the individual;
21 ‘‘(iii) is uniquely identifiable and standardized
22 within a given locality, region, or State (as identified
23 by the Secretary); and
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1 ‘‘(iv) may incorporate any advance directive (as
2 defined in section 1866(f)(3)) if executed by the in
3 dividual.
4 ‘‘(B) The level of treatment indicated under subpara
5 graph (A)(ii) may range from an indication for full treat
6 ment to an indication to limit some or all or specified
7 interventions. Such indicated levels of treatment may in
8 clude indications respecting, among other items—
9 ‘‘(i) the intensity of medical intervention if the
10 patient is pulse less, apneic, or has serious cardiac
11 or pulmonary problems;
12 ‘‘(ii) the individual’s desire regarding transfer
13 to a hospital or remaining at the current care set
14 ting;
15 ‘‘(iii) the use of antibiotics; and
16 ‘‘(iv) the use of artificially administered nutri
17 tion and hydration.’’.
18 (2) PAYMENT.—Section 1848(j)(3) of such Act
19 (42 U.S.C. 1395w–4(j)(3)) is amended by inserting
20 ‘‘(2)(FF),’’ after ‘‘(2)(EE),’’.
21 (3) FREQUENCY LIMITATION.—Section 1862(a)
22 of such Act (42 U.S.C. 1395y(a)) is amended—
23 (A) in paragraph (1)—
24 (i) in subparagraph (N), by striking
25 ‘‘and’’ at the end;
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1 (ii) in subparagraph (O) by striking
2 the semicolon at the end and inserting ‘‘,
3 and’’; and
4 (iii) by adding at the end the fol
5 lowing new subparagraph:
6 ‘‘(P) in the case of advance care planning
7 consultations (as defined in section
8 1861(hhh)(1)), which are performed more fre
9 quently than is covered under such section;’’;
10 and
11 (B) in paragraph (7), by striking ‘‘or (K)’’
12 and inserting ‘‘(K), or (P)’’.
13 (4) EFFECTIVE DATE.—The amendments made
14 by this subsection shall apply to consultations fur
15 nished on or after January 1, 2011.
16 (b) EXPANSION OF PHYSICIAN QUALITY REPORTING
17 INITIATIVE FOR END OF LIFE CARE.—
18 (1) PHYSICIAN’S QUALITY REPORTING INITIA
19 TIVE.—Section 1848(k)(2) of the Social Security Act
20 (42 U.S.C. 1395w–4(k)(2)) is amended by adding at
21 the end the following new paragraphs:
22 ‘‘(3) PHYSICIAN’S QUALITY REPORTING INITIA23
TIVE.—
24 ‘‘(A) IN GENERAL.—For purposes of re25
porting data on quality measures for covered
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1 professional services furnished during 2011 and
2 any subsequent year, to the extent that meas
3 ures are available, the Secretary shall include
4 quality measures on end of life care and ad
5 vanced care planning that have been adopted or
6 endorsed by a consensus-based organization, if
7 appropriate. Such measures shall measure both
8 the creation of and adherence to orders for life
9 sustaining treatment.
10 ‘‘(B) PROPOSED SET OF MEASURES.—The
11 Secretary shall publish in the Federal Register
12 proposed quality measures on end of life care
13 and advanced care planning that the Secretary
14 determines are described in subparagraph (A)
15 and would be appropriate for eligible profes
16 sionals to use to submit data to the Secretary.
17 The Secretary shall provide for a period of pub
18 lic comment on such set of measures before fi
19 nalizing such proposed measures.’’.
20 (c) INCLUSION OF INFORMATION IN MEDICARE &
21 YOU HANDBOOK.—
22 (1) MEDICARE & YOU HANDBOOK.—
23 (A) IN GENERAL.—Not later than 1 year
24 after the date of the enactment of this Act, the
25 Secretary of Health and Human Services shall
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1 update the online version of the Medicare &
2 You Handbook to include the following:
3 (i) An explanation of advance care
4 planning and advance directives, includ
5 ing—
6 (I) living wills;
7 (II) durable power of attorney;
8 (III) orders of life-sustaining
9 treatment; and
10 (IV) health care proxies.
11 (ii) A description of Federal and State
12 resources available to assist individuals
13 and their families with advance care plan
14 ning and advance directives, including—
15 (I) available State legal service
16 organizations to assist individuals
17 with advance care planning, including
18 those organizations that receive fund
19 ing pursuant to the Older Americans
20 Act of 1965 (42 U.S.C. 93001 et
21 seq.);
22 (II) website links or addresses for
23 State-specific advance directive forms;
24 and
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1 (III) any additional information,
2 as determined by the Secretary.
3 (B) UPDATE OF PAPER AND SUBSEQUENT
4 VERSIONS.—The Secretary shall include the in
5 formation described in subparagraph (A) in all
6 paper and electronic versions of the Medicare &
7 You Handbook that are published on or after
8 the date that is 1 year after the date of the en
9 actment of this Act.
10 SEC. 1234. PART B SPECIAL ENROLLMENT PERIOD AND
11 WAIVER OF LIMITED ENROLLMENT PENALTY
12 FOR TRICARE BENEFICIARIES.
13 (a) PART B SPECIAL ENROLLMENT PERIOD.—
14 (1) IN GENERAL.—Section 1837 of the Social
15 Security Act (42 U.S.C. 1395p) is amended by add
16 ing at the end the following new subsection:
17 ‘‘(l)(1) In the case of any individual who is a covered
18 beneficiary (as defined in section 1072(5) of title 10,
19 United States Code) at the time the individual is entitled
20 to hospital insurance benefits under part A under section
21 226(b) or section 226A and who is eligible to enroll but
22 who has elected not to enroll (or to be deemed enrolled)
23 during the individual’s initial enrollment period, there
24 shall be a special enrollment period described in paragraph
25 (2).
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to learn is to live with one's eyes wide open

“Tell me and I forget.

Teach me and I remember.

Involve me and I learn.”
~Benjamin Franklin

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

compassion

At what point in the time line of our existence did compassion become a 'dirty word'? When did people start caring only for themselves? Is this the majority or the minority's view in today's society? What is happening in their daily lives that makes people feel and express the very real thought that no one else matters but them?

We are all guilty actually. I don't exempt myself. I have been there, done that, and thought of only me at times in the last 47 years of my life. I admit it. I try to put myself in the other person's shoes most of the time but sometimes it's an impossible task because of the circumstances or the person or the acts that were done to me. I am only human. I never pretended to be perfect.

My past short comings are out there for the world to condemn. Res ipsa loquitur. My saving grace is firmly planted in the knowledge though, that each day is a new day to start over and try to do things right. The past is the past.

So I always try... always try. I always try to think how would I feel if it was me. The times when I am successful my heart grieves for the other person's loss, hurts for their circumstances, hopes for their recovery, prays for their healing and wonders if there is anything I can do to help lighten their heart and right their world.

Compassion.

Why is today's prevalent thought process so set against caring for one another? Is it fear? Are people afraid there isn't enough to go around in this life? Scarcity mentality? There are only so many pieces of a pie? Can there be only one pie when it comes to the world? Are people starving so much emotionally that they feel they can't spare even a small piece of their compassion for others?

Is it the feeling that there isn't enough of any one thing to go around that people feel they have to ration their feelings, their love, their care, their concern, their "everything" just to protect what they do have or who they are?

Is it being self-centered? Other's aren't their responsibility? The only people to care about is themselves, their immediate family, their close friends? No one else matters? The world's not their problem?

The world is a global existence.
Is the world a global problem?
Do you believe that you are an island?
Why are people scared to care for each other?
Can you really care for another when you are worried only about yourself?
Do you even want to?

What is compassion?

Would you say you really do care about others yet label and group those less fortunate than you? Or more fortunate for that matter? Discrimination is an equal opportunity judge. It goes both ways. Do you judge a person by their circumstances without knowing their story of how they came to be where they are today? Do you enjoy being judged by others? Do you even care what anyone else thinks? Feels? Experiences?

Is compassion a feeling or an action?

Do you think it's necessary in life to feel compassionate for those you know nothing about other than they have lived different from you? Believed different from you? Ended up different from where you think they should be? Live, work, love, do, are ~ all different from you? What about those who are the same? Do you care for them simply because you share some similar base thought processes and beliefs?

Who are we to decide what is best for another? Who are we to choose another's road? Who are we to judge another's life?

Just who do we think we are???
I have no clue... honestly. None.

All I know is that it makes me sad to see compassion called out as "wrong" as oppossed to a 'right' choice, "bad" as opposed to 'good', and a host of other negative labels. Why? None of us alone can carry the world on our shoulders but why do we need to tear it down on top of everything else? Why do people tear each other apart like two lions fighting for one piece of meat? Is the food supply truly that limited for all of us? Do people really believe the sky is falling? The world is ending? This is it?

I hope not. I hope not for my children's sake and my children's children and for the world's future. I hope that compassion isn't dying and that kindness isn't dead. For all who are to live after me, I pray people will begin to see everyone as a whole united body and stop dissecting us into parts and cutting us apart. Where is the edification in bringing other people down? What is the purpose? Do you enjoy belittling others? Do you like it when you are belittled? What is the point?

There isn't one.

We are a body. All of us. This human existence on earth. We are a global system. Even if you want to separate people into groups and judge them according to whatever your core values are ~ it doesn't change the fact that we're all in this together. It's bigger than simply a country, a state, a city, a neighborhood, your own home.

A body needs it's heart to live. To pump our life's blood into the system to keep it going. We need our lungs to breathe. We need our legs to carry us and our arms to feed. We need each other, even if you don't believe. When the world view becomes the mentality "It's them against us" ~ we are simply walking dead people. Without realizing it, you have cut up your own body and allowed it bleed to death. There's nothing left to be.

Without compassion, there is no reason to live.
You're dead already. Inside at the core.
The place where each of us truly lives and breathes.

I pray for peace...

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"A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."
~ Albert Einstein

"The major block to compassion is the judgment in our minds. Judgment is the mind's primary tool of separation."
~ Diane Berke

"We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
~ Viktor Frankl

"The value of compassion cannot be over-emphasized. Anyone can criticize. It takes a true believer to be compassionate. No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or understands."
~
Arthur H. Stainback

"Compassion is not weakness, and concern for the unfortunate is not socialism."
~
Hubert H. Humphrey

"I came upon a doctor who appeared in quite poor health. I said, 'There's nothing that I can do for you that you can't do for yourself.' He said, 'Oh yes you can. Just hold my hand. I think that that would help.' So I sat with him a while then I asked him how he felt. He said, 'I think I'm cured."
~ Conor Oberst

"The indigenous peoples thought of legal, illegal, and other landownership issues as "fleas arguing over who owns the dog". There is no way to separate our realities and needs from others, no man is an island."
~ Crocodile Dundee

~~~ My Quotes Page ~~~

Sunday, August 23, 2009

Congrats Tommy!

Last year, I was thrilled to be able to congratulate my daughter for not only graduating with a bachelors degree at the top of her class with honors, but also for being accepted into a Ph.D. graduate program on a full ride. She skipped right past her master's and into the most difficult educational journey of her life.

This year, the man she loves, (who also graduated at the top of his college class with honors!), has moved many miles away so he can obtain his dream of becoming a medical doctor. His White Coat ceremony was held recently and though I could not attend, my heart was with him and his parents, as well as my daughter, as he begins this very exciting and challenging new time in his life.

Congrats Tommy! I know you will be an excellent medical doctor!!!
No worries on retaining information. You will do fine.
You make everyone proud every day. You are an amazing young man.

I am so very proud of all of my children...
I couldn't be more proud if I had raised you.
Your parents did an amazing job!
Love you!!!

Saturday, August 22, 2009

a birthday message to a dear friend

Ever have a truly happy moment when time stands still and you quietly realize, "This is what life's all about!"?

In that very split second of comprehension all of the joy and wonder of being alive rushes in to your whole being. The happiness is almost tangible. You can feel it throughout your body, your mind, your entire spirit. The ecstasy of that feeling takes your breath away as you surrender all your thoughts and actions to experience it. You stop. You don't want to let it go. You barely move as you try to hold on to it for as long as it lasts. You feel happy, whole and complete. Nothing stands in your way of living the life that was meant to be.

I had one of those moments today.

It wasn't because of what I was doing at the time. It wasn't about where I was at that moment. It had nothing to do with sharing that immediate second with anyone else. The moment wasn't attached to a person, place or thing. It had no wants, needs or desires to complete it. It existed on it's own with nothing between it and me. All I could think was, "Wow... I am really happy..." It still shocks me sometimes... lol

And then I thought, this is the best gift I could give to a very special person for his birthday today. The knowledge that all of his time had not been wasted. That all of his compassion had not gone unanswered. That the countless hours and days and months of hoping and giving and believing and encouraging had brought me to this place of abundant joy and peace. For him to know without a shadow of a doubt, that I know who I am and that there is no one I would rather be, no where I'd rather go and nothing I'd rather see than what is right here and now in this very instant before me. I own me.

To comprehend that in that fleeting moment ~
I see it... I feel it... I grasp it... I love it...
And I know I am forever free.

You know the best part? The aha moment of recognizing it in it's purest form at the exact second when it was happening and then being able to thank you with a knowing smile that can't be seen ~ for never giving up on me.

Happy birthday Michael...
Thank you for always believing in me... *kotc*

Friday, August 21, 2009

always remember ~ you're not alone

There are so many of you out there that have called or e-mailed me lately who are tired, sad or feeling overwhelmed. You've lost your jobs. You're afraid of the current political hysteria. You feel you're losing your retirement, your money, your home, your family... your life.

Your hearts are heavy and your mind is full of uncertainty. You feel worried and desperate. Some of you have told me that you feel you are lost. The fear is palpable in your voices.

As always, I don't have your answer. Wish I did. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make every one's world righted. I wish I knew the right things to say to comfort you and take away your pain. All of the flippant sayings and phrases and quotes cannot bring you peace when your world is crashing down around you.

I don't know how to help you and it's heartbreaking to watch you live your daily walk in agony. I don't think I can help. I believe we all must walk through this fire of fear ourselves and come out of it on the other side alone. Stronger. Resilient. Ready to live in the moment, instead of constantly holding our breath and living in the past, or not at all.

Please know this one thing when you are at what you think is the end of what you can handle ~

You're not alone.
You're never alone.

When you feel like you're falling into that deep open pit of darkness that seems endless and forever ~ there is always someone walking by your side ready to help you up.

Always.
Never forget.

Love you... {{{hugs}}}

p.s. Turn on your volume and enjoy the video... :)
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Where Your Heart Belongs

You lost yourself in finding out
The wonders of the world will let you down
You gave yourself to those who never cared about your soul
They only cared for their own
Seems everyone has left you

You're not alone, I hear you call
And I've been waiting here for you through it all
You're not alone, come to the cross
Let Me show you where your heart belongs
You're not alone

You've been down the darkest roads
And you know just how it feels to lose your hope
But don't give up on everything
When everyone has given up on you
And it feels like everyone has left you

You're not alone, I hear you call
I've been waiting here for you through it all
You're not alone, come to the cross
Let Me show you where your heart belongs
You're not alone

I will never leave you, come back to My open arms
To the only love you need

You're not alone, I hear you call
I've been waiting here for you through it all
You're not alone, come to the cross
Let Me show you where your heart belongs
You're not alone
You're not alone
You're not alone
~Mainstay

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

a successful day

"If I have been of service, if I have glimpsed more of the nature and essence of ultimate good, if I am inspired to reach wider horizons of thought and action, if I am at peace with myself, it has been a successful day."
~Alex Noble

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

it's just life


“When I hear somebody sigh, "Life is hard," I am always tempted to ask, "Compared to what?"”

~Sydney J. Harris

Saturday, August 15, 2009

What is the secret...?

It is interesting to listen to the viewpoints of others. How they think. What they believe. What makes them unique and their own person in the world around them. Recently many of you provided thoughtful insights into your core beliefs when asked two questions:

1. AGREE or DISAGREE? A friend said to me, "In reality, no one is truly happy. Some are just better than others at fooling themselves about how they really feel."

And:

2. What is your definition for happiness?

It was interesting to watch as the first question brought about the need for the second. The answers were as individual as the friends responding. The subsequent dialogue sought further introspection of expressed opinions and ideals. All of your statements are valid and true at some level within the broad spectrum of what brings joy to each of your lives.

The process of coming to the lowest common denominator for the definition of happiness though is not an easy task. What is the secret to happiness on a universal level? Is there one single concept that can be practiced by each and every one of us that gives us the ability to be happy, no matter what?

If you tie your happiness to a person, what happens when that person disappears? What if they die or leave or simply stop living? There are many ways for a person to withdraw. Some are permanent and others are temporary. Are you living your life around another and unable to be happy without that continuous interaction? Are you looking for someone else to make you happy?

If you tie your happiness to a thing, what happens when that thing disappears? Either by loss or mechanical failure? What happens when it becomes outdated and obsolete and no longer useful? Do you run out and buy the next best thing hoping that will fill the void and make you happy? Are you on the materialistic merry-go-round and unhappy unless you can acquire anything your heart desires? Every time your heart desires it? What happens when your life changes and you lose the ability to stuff it with things? Would you still be happy?

And what about the things that have no materialistic value to anyone but have sentimental value to you? Is your happiness tied to things with nostalgic value? What if they all disappeared in the blink of an eye? Would you be able to be happy without any of the things that you place the utmost value on in your life?

If you tie your happiness to a location, what happens when it becomes unavailable to you? What happens when you can no longer live there? Work there? Visit there? Would your world fall apart and crumble into pieces if you suddenly had no place to call home? No place to go to work? No place in the world all your own? Would you still be happy?

If you tie your happiness to your health, what happens when you are no longer healthy? Or if you lose a limb or your eyesight or your hearing? Would the loss of your physical capabilities prevent you from being happy for the rest of your life? Could you survive it?

Many of these hypothetical situations will never happen to you personally but they have all happened to others individually. How do these people not only survive but come out of devastating circumstances stronger and as happy as they ever were before the bad things happened? What is their secret?

I sat in a restaurant a few weeks back with friends and watched as a woman was wheel-chaired in to the table next to us by a man. It could have been her husband or her brother or simply a friend. They were laughing as they ordered their meal. They were sharing and talking and enjoying each other's company. They appeared to be what all of us would consider as "happy" in that moment in time.

The woman had no legs and no arms.

Happiness.

What is the secret?

What makes some people miserable who appear to have everything and others full of joy who have so much less than them? Why are there so many dissatisfied people who truly have nothing to be unhappy about? Why is complaining and hating and negativity and self pity running rampant when the majority of us should be... well, happy...???

In my personal experience, happiness is three fold and simple. I wake up every morning in a state of joy and gratefulness. I always have and never expect it to change. During dark times, it is a bit more difficult to find these feelings but they are always there, under the surface buried deep in my core. My 'normal' state of being is one of joy. I don't make a decision to wake up happy. It just "is".

I believe it is because:

1. I am content.
2. I allow myself to grieve my losses.
3. I let go.

I am content with who I am at my core. I accept and love all of me, the good and the bad. In the quiet stillness of the sunrise, I embrace the day knowing that it is a totally new moment in time that I've never experienced and I am content to live it as it's meant to be lived... whatever that moment brings to me. I don't want for people, places and things. If they are brought my way then it's a bonus to my day! But there are no expectations... for anyone or from anything. I don't expect any thing, any person or any place or even my health to bring me any happiness.

Two, I allow myself my sadness. When bad things happen or my life takes a sharp turn in a different direction, I give myself a time limit to be sad about what has transpired and then I simply let go. The only control I have is over my actions and reactions. There is no other control we have in this world.

When there are changes in my life, when there is loss and pain and despair that I cannot prevent from happening ~ I can still have my joy after my grieving time period is completed. I only allow so much time for feeling sorry for myself and then I pick up and get on with life. You see, if you keep your mind and your heart wrapped around all of the negatives that have happened to you in your life ~ you will never find your joy. It can't breathe. People prevent themselves from being happy by holding on to their grief.

Which brings us to three, I let go.

Every second of every day there are bad things that happen to us. We can choose to hold on to these experiences. We can bury them so deep within us that sometimes we don't realize we are still carrying them around until low and behold, someone or something somewhere triggers a response that brings them to the surface.

Holding on to all the negatives in your life prevents you from growing emotionally. It prevents you from moving forward. It prevents you from healing, loving, learning and living. It prevents you from being happy. Embracing the bad from your old life is unproductive. There is no edification in living in the past. You are stealing your own joy and throwing it away when you constantly allow yourself to revisit painful previous situations that brought you to your knees.

So every day, I let go. Until one day, I don't need to let go anymore because whatever bad thing that I was holding on to deep within me ~ it is now forgotten. As far as the east is from the west. At that point, without my even knowing it, I have forgiven myself for holding on to it in the first place. That's when I am able to be truly free. Then, and only then, can I fly.

I don't know the answer for anyone else to help them find their secret to being happy. My short list might not work for you. As life comes charging at you trying to steal your joy though, if you don't have a game plan ~ why not try mine? Just for awhile. Just to see if it works for you. My son said it takes 21 days to create a lifetime habit. Give it a try. Do it every day for 21 days. Every moment of every day when you need to... and just see if it works for you.

Wake up every morning content with who you are and what you have and where you live and what you do and every moment you feel a negative surfacing or re-surfacing from within ~

Let it go.

What have you got to lose?
What have you got to gain?
It's your choice.
You have your own control.
Do you want to be happy?
If you do,
Choose *you*.

Thank you to all my friends who gave me much food for thought!
Love ya!!!

Monday, August 10, 2009

Stolen points cover alert


CLICK ON PIC TO ENLARGE FOR BETTER VIEW:

Passing along for friends from the Shovelhead forum. The more people know, the more chance it will be spotted.

_______________

Came out after work today and found my points cover gone. I know it didn't fall off. I'm the only one at work that rides a Shovel but trucks come and go all day and who knows about half the people I work with. The cover came from BladeRunner and it was custom worked by Grub. It was a one of a kind that had some meaning to it. It would have hurt less if they would have taken the whole fricken bike.
Ulfr

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If you see this points cover, anywhere, it does not belong to the person who has it.
I urge you to contact someone here or Email me direct:

selectedgrub@gmail.com

I will offer a reward for this piece to be returned to it's rightful owner.
Thanks in advance.

http://shovelhead.us/forum/showpost.php?p=426750&postcount=1

Edited to add in Travis' description:

This points cover is a one of a kind piece made by a friend of mine in New Zealand for another friend of mine in Michigan. If you see this points cover it is stolen and whoever has it is not the rightful owner. It may be on a shovelhead or evo. The banners say old friends, old bikes. the middle piece is an upside down bar and shield that says first annual shovelfest '08. Again, this is the only one that was ever made and the person who has it now is not the rightful owner.

Sunday, August 9, 2009

my first sail


"Once you have flown, you walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward; for there you have been, there you long to return."

~Da Vinci


Another experience has been crossed off my "I want to do EVERYTHING" Bucket List.
I went sailing last night for my first time.

I have talked about it for forever. Desired to experience the waves and water rolling and weaving beneath me. Interested in learning about boats and ropes and observing the sails straining and stretching out in the wind as it guided us forward. Feeling the power of nature gently directing us as we glided gracefully along the ocean with no thought to what could be or what was... only what is right now. This moment.
This very glorious moment of the present.

It was everything I thought it would be and more. On the water there are no worries. No heavy thoughts. No cares. There is simply the wind, the water, the sky and the calming rock of the sea. It was relaxing... peaceful... totally content. It was home as I've always known it would be for me.

Life is good. If you don't have a bucket list I highly recommend you start one! Write down everything you want to do *someday*. Know in your heart that someday will come and you will do the things that your core calls you to experience.

Then make them happen.

Make
Them
Come
True

Live like you won't live it twice.
This moment.
You won't you know...
You won't get another chance to live this moment right now.

Treasure each of your moments while you live them.
Embrace all that they have offered you without hesitation.
Love what you do and do what you love and never stop dreaming.

Always listen to your core. Listen to heart.
You already know what's best for *you*.
Trust yourself... don't worry about anything else.
The rest will fall into place.
Love *you*.

p.s. Thanks for the great quote Howard! :)


Friday, August 7, 2009

it's not about you

"People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they're not on your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost."
~H. Jackson Browne


My sister Stacy used to say, "It's my world, I just allow you to live in it."

We all have our own little worlds. We all walk different paths. We all have different purposes in life. Our worlds revolve around people and things and events we each individually deem important to us. Although we interact with each other, other people's worlds don't revolve around us. They have basically nothing to do with us. What others do, how they act and react, how they live their lives and the paths they have chosen to walk have nothing to do with anyone but them and what's inside their core.

Don't confuse the two worlds ~ theirs and yours.

Be patient with others. Love them for simply being, not for being who they are or what they can be to you or do for you. Don't allow their actions to frustrate you. Don't take anything personal.

Share your world without expecting others to want to be in it. Enjoy the times that they do and accept the times that they don't. Respect their world. Honor their feelings. Accept what they are willing to give without negating what they aren't willing to be to you or do for you.

Always remember:

It's not about you.

Love the differences in other people's worlds around you ~
It's what makes this life exciting, fulfilling and wonderful!

♥ live for the moments you can't put into words ♥